There are 3 reasons why your girlfriend would want a break:
1. Her Attraction Level Has Dropped Below 30%
Women do not break up with their boyfriends when their attraction level has gone below 50%, they will instead choose to torture you and withdraw sex. If you sense your girlfriend’s interest level going this low, then you need to exit your relationship or risk dying a painful death. In this scenario, you have no hope. Attraction is like a rubber band, once it snaps, it’s done. Cut your losses and move on, don’t make the same mistakes in your next relationship.
2. She Has Met Someone Else
It’s a sad truth that there are men out there much more Alpha than you. And yes, your girlfriend would much rather ride them than you. She will use a break as a way to decide what she wants without feeling the repercussions of guilt and hearing your relentless whining. Without actually being with you, she can much more easily rationalize being attracted to another guy. You have hope in this case, but it’s best to move on.
3. Her Insatiable Appetite For Relationship Drama
She was craving the chemical rush that often comes from breaking up / getting back together. If your relationship doesn’t provide it, she will get it from tabloids, romance novels, Gossip Girl, Oprah, or otherwise live vicariously through her single friends. If drama is absent for too long, she will create it herself. You will NEVER be able to escape the crack-like addiction women have to drama. It is futile for you to try and find a girl “past all this”.
Two notes about reason 3. First, men do this too. Walking out is a weapon every person wields shamelessly in every type of relationship (sexual, familial, business) to get a stronger reaction from the other party. In a relationship, it is simply a logistical tool used to gain more attention and reignite passion. Which makes the concept all the more interesting, is it right or wrong then, and should you get back together with her after or not?
Here is why going on a break is almost universally a bad choice. Your girlfriend will rationalize the break by convincing herself that she simply needs “more space”. If you’re a beta and your girlfriend goes on a break with you, you’ll call her 1,000 times, drive attraction even lower with your desperation, and kill any chance for a relationship. IF your girlfriend still takes you back, out of sympathy, you will enter the relationship in a submissive state, perfectly setting up a Noose and a scaffold for yourself. If you’re a jerk, you’re gonna go fuk another girl. Oddly, this works much better than the former scenario. 80% of girls will still take you back, and they will never go on a break with you. BUT, if your relationship ever takes a downhill turn, she is much more likely to fuck another guy out of resentment. 20% (The feminists, and women who pride themselves in self-respect) will cry for 3 days, and then they’ll get on with their lives.
The only time going on a break will work for your girlfriend is when you’re an Alpha (which is what you are) and you DO give her space, driving her interest level back up and giving her time to miss you. As an Alpha, you must handle the break exactly how you would a break-up. I e; set up a win-win scenario so if she doesn’t want you back, you’re still over her. You MUST avoid ALL CONTACT.
To determine whether it’s a good idea for YOU to get back with her, you need to figure out why she’s going on a break. And by that, I don’t mean listening to her. Men communicate Overtly, hence why we try to listen to a girl’s words to figure out why they’re upset. Women communicate COVERTLY, hence why we never understand women. You need to understand what EMOTIONS are making her choose to go on a break, not the logical reasons she is offering.
Have you ever noticed how your girlfriend constantly shifts, why she’s upset, what’s making her unhappy, or the reasons behind a break-up / break? She cannot grasp the reasons herself, she only understands the emotions that are driving her to do so. In accordance with cognitive dissonance, she will rationalize her actions AFTERWARDS in any way possible.
If she’s doing it to get more attention, remind you guys how much you like undressing each other, and otherwise create drama for the high from breaking up / getting back together, you must realize that it is in her nature to do so. Fostering resentment against this type of behavior will do nothing but bring forth infinities of chaos. The only three things that will determine whether you stay with your girlfriend through this is the depth of your Oneitis infection, your chances with other women, and how much common sense both of you have. If it gets to excessive, leave. If the break periods become to pro-longed, leave. If you find someone else whom you think will make a better girlfriend, leave. You will never find a girl completely void of a drama-addiction, the key is to look for one who doesn’t get high too frequently.
