Ruin Your Chances Of Connecting By Committing Any Of These Online Dating Crimes!
When meeting any new potential romantic interest, your goal is always to confidently market yourself without coming off like a mall kiosk employee pitching the “hard sell”. Fortunately, online dating provides a controlled environment allowing you to think about how to best craft messages and a profile without the anxiety that comes with doing it on the fly in real-time.
Of course each online dating experience is entirely unique: like a snowflake, a sunset, or your cable channel lineup.
But there are many universal pitfalls common to the online dating arena that must be avoided at all costs. The following are the worst mistakes you could possibly make:
1. Being Too Honest
Your profile is not a confessional booth – keep the details of your crippling debt, anger issues, the stuffed monkey you use for a pillow, or your love of hundred-year-old surgical memorabilia to yourself. Ultimately, when it comes to online dating, less is more. Mystery always trumps creepy.
2. Using A Terrible Photo
Your photo is perhaps the single most important factor when it comes to others deciding whether they’d like to reach out to you or not. Carefully choose one that represents your best features and doesn’t make you look like a giant tool. Ask at least three of your close friends (preferably a co-ed group) to approve your choice(s).
3. Waiting Too Long To Take It Offline
Just as improperly timing a first move can result in failure, incorrectly gauging when to ask for an in-person meet-up can be equally disastrous.
Don’t spend weeks trading messages back and forth just for him or her to lose interest – or to finally meet up and realize that you wasted all that time on a psych ward-level weirdo.
4. Rushing
On the other hand, urgency and pressure will never be well-received. So make sure that you have a comfortable rapport before you offer up a home-cooked meal to a potential date. Someone you’ve barely exchanged three sentences with is much less likely to follow you down into your creepy basement for some pasta primavera.
5. Acting Needy
Whether we realize it or not, at some point, we all need romance in our lives. Being yourself is important, but at the online dating meat market, playing it cool provides an even greater advantage. Later, once you’ve met and established a mutual interest, you can reveal your vulnerabilities to your special person.
6. Overtly Promoting Casual Sex
No matter how down you are to do the dirty deed, letting it happen organically will generally guarantee the best success rate possible. Good casual relationships are mostly reserved for those who don’t ask for them outright, by advertising sexual desperation on an online profile or in messages. Be discrete to get between them sheets.
7. Revealing Your Frustration
Think you’re the first person to become disenchanted with online dating? Hardly. You won’t forge a deep and meaningful bond with someone else who feels as frustrated with online dating as you do – negativity is rarely a great starting point for romance. But positivity will attract positive people.
Bottom Line
We’re all looking for someone to bring out the best version of ourselves: a person with whom we can laugh and cry; travel and explore; eat out, stay in, go for broke, live it up, break barriers, and make new friends. Fortunately, online dating is the perfect means of increasing your chances of finding that very someone. Just make sure to follow the above guidelines to give yourself the best shot at making a digital romantic connection.
And with that, we release thee into the wild. Best of luck!
