In terms of dating and relationships, anchoring refers to the efficient use of Pavlov’s reflex to condition a woman to respond to specific external stimuli. Examples can range from making a girl feel good about herself when exposing her to the smell of your cologne to creating conflict and pain through the use of calculated absences or a word / object. Before delving deeper, a basic understanding is required so go read the Wikipedia article on Anchoring and NLP and Google “anchoring dating” or some shit and then come back here.
Strauss also refers heavily to it in The Game (NLP is exceptionally more important for speed seduction). There’s no point in me describing exactly what NLP is, that point has already been beaten to death by other articles and blogs. Instead, I’m going to give you examples of how you can effectively utilize positive psychology to enhance your relationship / dating experience.
How to Leave a Lasting Impression: The Power of Giving and Absence in Dating
If you plan on seeing a girl again, give her something of yours, preferably something that smells like your cologne (scarf, etc). To “stay on a girl’s mind”, you have to create a sense of absence but STILL remind her about how good it felt to be with you.
Balancing Intimacy: Nurturing Emotional Connection and Desire in Your Relationship
Whenever your girlfriend volunteers for a sexual marathon or aggressively strips all her clothes, cuddle afterwards and treat her with romantic veneration. Whenever you need to solicit sexual favors out of her or she acts prude, withdraw attention but DON’T beg, act upset, or look like it affected you in any way. The next time you have sex, act aloof, careless, get up first, and act like you have better shit to do. Or abruptly stop in the middle of sex and go to sleep.
Building Lasting Connections: The Art of Creating Emotional Anchors
Always be establishing emotional anchors you can use later. People do this all the time without even knowing it (wedding songs, anniversaries, the park you guys always go to, etc).
When she’s out flirting with other guys, you should be flirting with other girls. Giving off any sign of insecurity only gives her the pleasure of breaking your ego. Getting her girlfriends to agree to blow you in the bathroom (don’t actually go through with it though…lol) flips the narrative and makes her WANT TO AVOID flirting with other guys.
If she initiates a break with you, start fucking other girls as soon as possible. Seriously, this is a big one. When women go on “breaks”, they expect you to cry about it and act broken. Acting nonchalant and moving on is a good way to start a break, but showing both her AND YOURSELF that you have more important shit to do, and BETTER options than her is VERY important. She needs to FEEL a loss of ground.
Be aware that thousands of rules exist that govern sexual dynamics and social psychology. People who are “naturally charming” are just better at hiding their conscious manipulation of social dynamics (politicians, comedians, con-artists, etc).
