You’ve decided that you’re ready to date again, and you’ve spoken with your kids about your intentions. You’ve even given some thought to accepting a coworker’s offer to set you up with a friend, but you’re not quite there yet.
What’s missing? Your confidence.
If you’re like a lot of single moms and dads, it’s been years since you’ve been “out there” on the dating scene – and a lot has changed. But one thing remains constant: confidence is sexy!
So start with a few of these tried-and-true confidence boosters:
- Update your hairstyle. This is an easy one. Get a fresh haircut or change your style or color. Make an appointment with your stylist and ask him/her to suggest a style based on your facial structure. Be sure to discuss how you style your hair, too, and how much time you spend getting ready each morning. (I’d love to add bangs, but my stylist knows that I have no patience for maintaining them!)
- Get a mani-pedi. (Guys, this tip is for you, too!) This quick upgrade will leave you feeling pampered and ready. Before you make an appointment, search promotions online. Many salons offer deals on Mondays and Tuesdays or in combinations with other services!
- Exercise. Most of us wish we could lose a few pounds, but that’s not why I’m suggesting that you exercise before you start dating again! Think of exercise as part of your regular self-care routine. If you can make the time to exercise, you can probably make time to date! Plus, getting your blood flowing on a regular basis will leave you glowing with vitality – and that’s sexy!
- Revamp your wardrobe. Go through your closet and try everything on. Keep only the items that fit well and are flattering. Take all the rest and donate it to a charity in your area. (Be sure to get a receipt for your tax return!) And if you can, buy something new, like a top in a color that suits you or a pair of shoes that make you feel amazing. Check out the lingerie section, too. A few new pieces will help you feel sexy – even if you’re not ready for anyone to see them yet.
- Get waxed. Eyebrows? Upper lip? Arms? Legs? (Back?) We’ve all got problem areas. Let a pro take care of you.
- Get your teeth whitened. A whiter smile will make you feel more confident and youthful – at any age! Use an over-the-counter treatment or ask your dentist about in-office whitening treatments.
- Schedule a consultation. Is there something you’ve always (secretly) thought of doing? Maybe braces for your teeth or laser treatments for those pesky spider veins? I’m not suggesting that you need to – or should – do anything permanent, but if there’s an insecurity that’s always bothered you, go ahead and schedule a free medical consultation. There’s nothing wrong with exploring your options!
- Strengthen your small talk skills. Get together with a friend and practice making small talk – or, better yet, go out together and practice talking with real guys (or women) you’ve never met. It will feel awkward at first, but consistent practice will help you feel ten times more comfortable.
- Stand up straight. This quick-and-easy strategy conveys confidence and makes you look thinner at the same time!
- Smile. Finally, allow your excitement to show in a genuine smile that comes easily and makes your eyes sparkle. It’s one of the best ways to communicate friendliness and geniality.
