The title is a misnomer, all girlfriends will flirt with other guys, I should’ve called it “dealing with women”. Jealousy is an inevitable aspect of any amorous relationship, it is an integral part of attraction and a nuclear emotion that most guys have great difficulty controlling. I can’t tell a guy reading my blog “don’t be jealous, it’s a beta male trait” and expect to cure him of envious cancroids overnight, but I think understanding WHY your girlfriend is compelled to do so will help you understand them better / learn the proper way to respond.
99% of guys will incorrectly assume that if their girlfriend is flirting with another guy, it’s because she’s interested in him sexually and would deviate from her own morals if seduced a bit more. Combine this with some well practiced espionage skills and a generation of men who take pride in being moral arbiters for women, and you have what women call “a fucking crazy boyfriend”.
If you are a beta, and your girlfriend is flirting with another guy, it’s probably because she’s interested in him. The next time you guys are making love and she has her eyes closed, she’s probably imagining him instead of you.
If you are a beta and dating a girl with a past record that would give competition to most hookers and porn artists, then your girlfriend is probably flirting with another guy because she’s interested in him.
If your girlfriend’s vagina hangs like the sleeves of a wizard’s robe, then you have a good reason to be vigilant as she flirts with another guy.
All this being said, what would be the proper response to the above scenarios? Not throwing a piss fit and making yourself look like a bitch basket. The only person to blame is you, for choosing a cunt to be your girlfriend. Get out of your relationship, and beat yourself with a froggy stick for the next 3 weeks. After going to the hospital with toad welts all across your body, return home and keep the frog stick in your pocket. Every time you consider being in an exclusive relationship with a slut, take out the froggy stick and beat the shit out of yourself again. Eventually, your body will be conditioned to prevent any thoughts about going out with sluts and harlots.
Yes, your girlfriend will flirt with other guys. But if you’re going out with a girl who is excessively promiscuous or has a record of cheating, then the answer is not yelling at her or trying to convince her what she’s doing is wrong. Hopeful thinking will NOT work, you have chosen the wrong relationship to be in and the only possible path to redemption lies in dumping her with silent vindictiveness and choosing a better mate next time.
No fights, no arguments, no long texts, no monologues, no dialogues, no break up sex, nothing. “This relationship isn’t for me”, and you’re done.
If you are an Alpha (you don’t have to be a super Alpha, just not a giant vagina), shit gets more complicated. Your girlfriend can be flirting with other guys for a multitude of other reasons. All of them come from her need to maximize rapport.
Flirting with other guys is an easy way to solve her problem for rapport. The two possible results are:
- She gets attention from other guys
- You get jealous and she gets more attention from you
It is the essence of female manipulation and if you’ll take a second to realize, it is a subconscious technique, ingrained into their minds. No woman thinks “I need to flirt with another guy to fulfill my biological need for attention”, they just do. Unlike men who have to consciously utilize game (and still suffer from reductive understanding), women have an innate ability to leverage sexual dynamics.
Even if a girl is NOT interested in another guy or would NEVER consider cheating on her boyfriend, she would STILL be inclined to flirt with other guys because it gives her MORE MALE ATTENTION without making her suffer from any ethical repercussions.
If you’ve been following me thus far, then the final revelation will make everything clear for you. If you act jealous when your girlfriend flirts with other guys, then you REINFORCE her need to flirt with other guys. If she is able to get MORE ATTENTION from you (yes, yelling and fighting is a form of attention. In her eyes, it reminds her that you are desperate for her) then she will only TEMPORARILY stop engaging in promiscuous behavior, and then start again when she feels the need for a chemical rush.
