If you’re looking for one, Valentine’s Day offers a great excuse to spice up your sex life by introducing a first, or thirty-first sex toy into the mix. Keep in mind that Valentine’s Day is the busiest time of year for sex shops, so whether you’re dropping into your local favorite sex shop, or shopping online, don’t be shy to ask for help and suggestions. Below you’ll find my picks for classic and brand new sex toys that are perfect for Valentine’s giving (including a Valentine for yourself).
Sqweel
This innovative sex toy is now more easily (and more affordably) available in North America. Sqweel is a great sex toy for couples wanting to expand their communication about sex, as using it well demands communication. But its hilarious look makes it hard not to want to goof around with.
Hitachi Magic Wand
Without a doubt the most important sex toy for couples. So versatile and long lasting, you’ll never regret getting a Magic Wand. It’s great for full body massage, perfect for solo sex or using on your partner, and it fits well between the two of you during sex play. Some people are turned off by the size, strength, and noise levels, but few complain once they’ve turned one on – or is that, once they’ve been turned on by one?
I Dare You
Not strictly speaking a sex toy, but a sex gift that belongs on everyone’s Valentine’s wish list. Each of the 30 cards in this beautifully produced box contain a suggested “seduction” crafted by Susie Bright to maximize possibilities and inspire exploration and sexual creativity. Each seduction opens up a world of sexual possibility and a thousand sexual conversations, without judgment or pedantry. Risqué, respectful, and ultimately just a rollicking good time, I Dare You is perfect for couples of all stripes who want to expand their sexual horizons and have hot fun sex while they’re doing it.
Mona
Mona, from Swedish sex toy makers LELO, makes a very generous gift that will no doubt reward the giver with either lots of sexual pleasure, lots of good sexual karma, or both. Featuring their easier to use multi-speed multi-modal controller, Mona is a substantial vibe made for both penetration and external stimulation. Mona also comes in breathtaking colors and is presented in the classic LELO packaging, which always feels more like you’re opening up jewelery, not sex toys.
In the spirit of Valentine’s Day, consider the ways you can share the pleasure with Share, the newest silicone creation from German sex toy manufacturer Fun Factory. This double-ended dildo can be used on its own or in a harness, and like all Fun Factory products it looks as good as it feels. Plus, really, does anything say “Happy Valentine’s Day” more than a dildo?
Bend Over Beginner Kit
If your Valentine’s configuration includes a boy with an interest in exploring anal play, this is a Valentine’s gift that will make him squeal (at least twice). A soft fabric harness that comes with a removable vibrator for the wearer, plus two silicone dildos designed for beginner anal play. Also known as pegging, this isn’t a gift for everyone, and it may be too much of a surprise if you haven’t talked about it first, but if you’ve both been looking for an excuse, Valentine’s Day is as good as any.
Kiwi Vibe
In some ways it looks more like a root vegetable than a kiwi, but this is an adorable and very practical vibrator for external stimulation. The body is hard plastic but the tip is silicone and flickers, offering both a subtle and more substantial vibration depending on how you use it. One exciting aspect of the Kiwi is that the handle with the push button controls can be rotated 180 degrees, which makes it easy to hold the vibrator in a way that fits the body part you’re using it on and fits your hand. It’s almost like universal design, except the controls aren’t really that accessible. Still it’s nifty and always nice to see a sex toy manufacturer experimenting.
Lollipop Crop
The holidays give BDSM sex toy makers an excuse for whimsy, and riding crops provide obvious opportunities to mix not only pleasure with pain, but cute with caution. This leather crop has a bright red silicone pad at the end, it looks like a lollipop but feels more like a smacker than a sucker. The silicone makes a loud smack without actually delivering too intense a sensation.
Vibrating Bead Thong
A wearable sex toy, perfect for couples, that’s surprisingly effective. The beads provide two kinds of stimulation for both partners. They lay over the vulva and during penetration they roll back and forth creating a mild pleasurable feeling for both people. Once you turn the clitoral vibrator the vibration is carried through the beads, so not only does the wearer feel the vibration, but the partner doing the penetration does as well. A rare example of an inexpensive sex toy that’s worth more than its price tag.
Wink Silk and Suede Blindfold
A smart and sexy twist on a classic blindfold, Jimmyjane has designed a blindfold, scarf, restraint, and sexual communication tool all in one. The ties on each blindfold are made of over 3 yards of silk. One side of the blindfold has a “Z” and the other a heart, letting you tell whomever may be coming to your bed just what you had in mind.
After a few changes (more vibration settings and an easier control setting) and a lower price, the We Vibe continues to be a unique toy for couples who want to add vibration to intercourse. This one isn’t great for solo play, but if you want to buy something for the two of you to use, and you’ve got the budget for a luxury toy, the We Vibe deserves to be on your list of possibilities.
Retractable Heart Vibe
This cute (and budget) mini vibe has an obvious Valentine theme, plus it’s great for anyone with an institutional-job nerd fetish. The vibrator (which is sitting in the heart case and sticking out) is actually attached by a retractable cord just like the kind people use for security passes and keys in those large office complexes. It’s functional and sex fantasy ready!
Spin Me: Game of Mischief by Jimmyjane
A sweet and simple design twist on the classic Spin the Bottle game. The bottle comes pre-loaded with instructions on what the spinner gets to do to the spin-ee – plus, you can always add your own.
Truth or Dare: A Game of Passion
This couples version of the classic teenage pastime promises hours of naughty and sensual fun. Every turn of the card and roll of the dice is a chance for lovers to abandon inhibitions and explore their mutual passions.
Mini Double Dolphin
Most vibrators that are designed for couples disappoint because by trying to be discreet in size they end up being insignificant in vibration. This wearable vibrator, which features two removable micro-bullet vibrators, is great for couples and has a vibration that’s hard to miss. The double dolphin can either be worn on the body or on a dildo to provide extra stimulation during penetration play. The only thing I can’t explain is sex toy manufacturer’s fascination with dolphins.
Throws of Passion
Consider this the most practical Valentine’s sex gift you’ll ever give. These machine washable, ingenious fabric throws (each 5 feet by 6 feet) provide a perfect barrier between your furniture and your love making. Available in shag and microfiber, both with a silky satin flip side, the throws have an inner moisture barrier that ensures everyone but you stays clean and dry.
Njoy Fun Wand
Designed for both g-spot stimulation and prostate stimulation, the Fun Wand is great for using with a partner, and between the elaborate and sexy packaging and shiny stainless steel construction, it makes a truly romantic gift (like jewelry for the inside). The stainless steel retains temperature, so another fun thing to do with the Fun Wand is heat it up or cool it down and surprise your partner.
Lovechest
I’m not saying you have to spend $2,500 on a Valentine’s Day gift, but if you were going to, you may want to check out this beautiful handmade sex toy cabinet from CharlieRedInc. I’ve only seen them online, but they look exquisite. Perfectly designed to store all your sex toys (from silver bullets to leather floggers), DVDs, books, and dress-up gear – and easily lockable – the only problem with the Lovechest is that it looks so good, everyone’s going to ask what’s in it.
