Covert is the native language of females. The same information can be conveyed to your girlfriend using a Covert or Overt method yet yield drastically different outcomes depending upon the method you chose. Most of the advice given pertaining to Game is interpreted Overtly – even by women – hence a source of huge misunderstanding. I’ll give you several examples.
Women Like Men Who Are WANTED By Other Women
Overt Method
You tell a girl that you’ve slept with a lot of women before or you tell your girlfriend that you are talking to some other girl. When you overtly tell a girl this you come off as a pretentious prick, not a “wanted” guy. To your girlfriend, it will simply serve as a catalyst for emotional resentment.
Covert Method
Work out, work on your dreams, work on yourself. Women are intrinsically capable of gauging a man’s perspective. If you make yourself into someone with high value, you are in essence cultivating her anxiety to keep you away from others. Your girlfriend’s need to possess you is critical to the success of your relationship. Adopt an abundance mentality, not a scarcity mentality. You must, at all times, be conscious of the fact that there ARE OTHER WOMEN OUT THERE. Harboring a psychological dependency on your girlfriend creates a breeding ground for neediness and insecurities. Never, even for a second, assume that you cannot “live” without your girlfriend.
Women Like Mysterious Men
Overt Method
Intentionally trying to create mystery by withholding information or trying to do “mysterious” things like disappearing at night. Needless to say, Overtly communicating “mystery” is a huge turn-off. It shifts you into an immediate qualifying frame because you are TRYING to impress her. Men who feel the need to qualify themselves are simply sources of entertainment, never attraction. If a girl KNOWS you are TRYING to be mysterious, any sense of mystery instantly evaporates.
Covert Method
You must understand first that no mystery needs to be actively created. Women have a propensity to create mystery themselves via their imagination, your job is simply to feed into it. You don’t have to try and CREATE mystery, you just need to try and NOT RUIN it. I e; The AFC wears his heart on his sleeve, he is oblivious to a woman’s need for mystery and instead imagines that by divulging everything about himself and how he feels, he will win her over. He mistakenly absolves himself of any arcane aura in an effort to build rapport, but ends up destroying attraction. The jerk on the other hand brags about his accomplishments till Orgasmic revelation only to realize that nobody cares. There is nothing attractive about listening to a guys’ conquests, it just makes a girl think that you must be masking a serious deficit in some other aspect of your life.
Women Like To Be Mind-Fucked
The difference between mind-fucking women covertly (the way they WANT to be mind-fucked) and overtly (the way that guys usually mind-fuck) comes from your intentions. The methods / results are often similar (even identical), but the deeply embedded intentions you have behind your thoughts / actions make a world of difference.
If you’ve ever been to a “get-your-ex-back” seminar, the first thing they teach you is to use jealousy as a tool to reignite interest. Understandably, this rarely ever works for people. Why?
Because when you talk to another girl to make your girlfriend “jealous” the frame is still on HER. You still NEED her, you are still DESPERATE, you are still NEEDY, nothing has changed in your mentality. Even if you DO get back with your girlfriend, you will regress back into AFC mode within weeks.
It is ALWAYS a better idea to look for new romance than to reignite an old passion. Hence, you should be talking to other people to find new receptacles to discharge your demon seed. If you find another girl you can see yourself with, then you escalate to build a new romantic tapestry. The focus must be on YOU, always. Live life for yourself, not someone else.
As you can see, the covert / overt methods are the same upon being executed, the difference is in the intentions behind them.
Another Example
Both partners in a relationship are engaged by the highs and lows of attention hence why push / pull is such an effective tactic for raising attraction. However, you should never PRETEND to be too busy to talk to your girlfriend, or consciously not text her to make her miss you. You should ACTUALLY be busy killing your enemies or skinning crocodiles or doing something masculine (not shopping or gelling your hair).
In the former example, the guy’s life is still revolving around his girlfriend, he’s withdrawing attention simply to play mind games. In the latter example, his life is revolving around his dreams and his actions are an extension of himself. The difference is golden.
