Most guys will see “masculinity” as a virtue of men that must be extolled from the outside world. From Alpha Male Manifestos to game blogs and pua journals, men will relentlessly absorb information in an attempt to transform themselves into the archetypal male. Such is the consequence of the matrix and a poor understanding of masculinity in general.
Why are naturals, naturals?
The answer is not as mystical as you expect. They were lucky. That’s all.
At a young age, they were either successful with women or their dad’s got them to start playing football or they did some shit that allowed them to take a position of leadership or taste success with women. Success builds on success and before they know it, women are secretly punching holes into their condoms to try and have their kids.
Why are betas, betas?
Because from a young age they were not taught qualities like confidence, or they experienced failure or were forced into acting introverted. Maybe their parents shunned bold qualities and encouraged only studying. Who knows.
The point is, these individuals are like this because of their experiences – not because of an innate ability to be Alpha or Beta. Within every man, EVERY MAN, are TWO scripts. One that says “how to be a beta”, the other says “how to be an Alpha”. Depending on his experiences, one will activate and the other will get suppressed further and further (Alphas become more Alpha as time passes, betas become more beta).
Strengthening your frame is thus the process of becoming more comfortable with the positive aspects of your masculinity. The reason I went through all this is because you MUST view game in this way. You CANNOT see it as something you “don’t know” and must “learn” from gurus. It is something YOU ALREADY KNOW, it is something you were NATURALLY programmed to have complete mastery over. As your sensei, my job is not to “teach”, it is only to make you open your eyes and understand what you already know, see what is already in front of you.
These 9 things aren’t rituals or long convoluted personality reconfigurators, they’re just random short things that I think will strengthen your frame. If anyone wants to add more in the comment’s section, feel free:
- Watch Fight Club, The Godfather, and a bunch of Clint Eastwood / James Bond movies. Learn.
- Find naturals to befriend. The best way to learn a game is by observing people who are good at it. This is even more effective than learning it first-hand by trial and error.
- Choose any competitive activity and be the best at it.
- Sublimate beta instincts. At the end of every week make a list of the 10 most pathetic things you did. From chickening out of an approach to begging for sex, they can be anything. Exterminating beta behavior patterns is MUCH easier than you think. The real problem is simply being aware of them. They are so ingrained into our minds, we allow ourselves to entertain them without thinking twice.
- Start AMOGing other guys consistently.
- Get out of your comfort zone.
- Start lying regularly for absolutely no reason. No one must know anything about you. Disappear regularly. Sometimes you can be seen walking around in a suit even when you don’t have work.
- Be a part-time salesman or do something that requires cold-approaching people. Guys who have been successful salesmen in the past are generally more charismatic. When you are REQUIRED to cold approach, you will be much less inclined to back-out.
- Dress well / Work out.
