Some Topics You Simply Can’t Lie About When First Meeting A New Love Interest…
Fibbing on a first date is, to some extent, inevitable. Perhaps you’ll mention some great project you’re working on and subtly fabricate a few of the details to sound more interesting. Or maybe you’ll withhold a bit of information that might not be “first date appropriate“. Yet, while certain “non-truths” are totally forgivable on a first date, there are also a few that must never be told. Save yourself the humiliation of getting caught by not lying about the following topics in the first place!
1. Occupation
No one wants to hear a forty-minute presentation on what you do for a living, but creating an alter-ego with a blatantly different job will eventually catch up with you. Whether your date seems like a future casual fling, or shows much longer-term potential, lying about your profession will ultimately end in embarrassment. It’s better to provide vague, simple truths – or avoid discussion of career entirely – than be deceptive.
2. Interests
Whether you’re an avid hiker, or more apt to spend your weekends binge-watching Netflix, claiming fake hobbies or preferences can only result in awkwardness and disappointment. When your partner starts planning date nights he or she thinks you’ll enjoy, you can bet that you’ll either end up confusing that person with your inexperience, or facing a misery of your own doing an activity you can’t stand. Save the “agree to disagree” portion of the relationship for at least a few dates from now.
3. Family
In the event that your new love interest starts speaking of close family relationships, don’t lead him or her to believe that you share the same level of intimacy with your own family when you actually haven’t spoken to your parents or siblings in years.
Even if you’re able to keep the lie going long enough to establish a relationship, your significant other will be exponentially more disappointed when it actually comes time to meet the Fokkers.
4. Marital Status
This one should be a no-brainer, but in the event that you are still currently married, don’t bring an innocent bystander to the mix. An affair should never take place because a third party isn’t aware that you’re still bound by law to someone else. If you’re open about your commitment and your date decides he or she is still interested, that’s a whole other (similarly ethically questionable) story – but it’s your responsibility not to leave that person in the dark.
5. Living Arrangements
Is there anything more uncomfortable than getting caught by your parents while you’re having sex? Yes, actually: getting caught by your parents while you’re having sex with someone who had no idea you live with your parents. Living arrangements might not even be discussed on a first date, but if the topic is brought up, don’t brag about your awesome bachelor/bachelorette pad when your parents, siblings, and childhood animals still live there, too.
6. How Much You’ve Enjoyed The Date
“I had a great time” should only be uttered at the end of the evening if you mean it. If your date was into you and believes you enjoyed yourself, he or she is either going to keep calling you or face monumental disappointment when you don’t respond or reach out. By all means, if you really did have fun, say so – but avoid leading your date on if you feel like you’ve been sleep-talking the entire night.
